Showing posts with label Stereotyping. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Stereotyping. Show all posts

Friday, December 14, 2018

Sophie H. & Ashley N.



Topic: Racial stereotyping


One day I was walking around the beach and I heard this lady yelling. So I look over, and I see this white woman harassing a woman of color. There were also two white kids looking at the awful situation, trying to get the tension lower between the two women. The white woman was expressing herself with various rude cuss words against the woman of color, which caused the woman of color to get extremely mad. So I rapidly sprinted to the older-looking kid, the brother, and asked him what started this.

He said, “The white lady came and started it. She thought we were going to get hurt.”

And then I looked at the sister and said, “I don't like seeing people get hurt.”

The white woman then accused the woman of color of kidnapping the kids This made the sister run into her older brother’s arms and tear up. It seemed that the woman of color was being greatly affected by the offensive words the white woman was using. You could easily notice this based on her facial expressions and the tears running down her face.

Once the white woman got tired of arguing, I went up to the woman of color, who was now hugging the kids, and I said, "If you don't mind me asking, what happened?”

The woman said, “Well, I just wanted to take my kids to the beach!”

And in that moment, in my head, I was like, wow, that’s their mom! I felt so bad for them once the woman of color told me that the kids were hers and that the white woman had made false assumptions. So I asked her kindly, “Is there anything you need? Some money? A ride home…?”

And she replied, “Excuse me? Are you assuming that I have no money? No car? How do you think I got my kids and myself here?!”

And in that moment, I realized that I myself was making assumptions about this woman of color! I was assuming she was poor and didn’t have a car to take her kids back home in, just like the white woman earlier had been assuming that she couldn’t have been the mom of two white children.

After I apologized, I got into my car and started to drive home, thinking about what had just happened at the beach. I even started talking to myself about the whole situation: “Why did I even ask that?! She looked like she knew how to take care of her kids.” I abruptly stopped my car at the red light two miles away from my house. “What would have happened if i hadn’t said that…?” Once I got home, I went straight to my room, thinking, “I have never stereotyped people ever in my whole life…” I lay in bed and stared at the ceiling. I complained to myself, saying, “What would have happened if I hadn't said anything or done anything?... I don't stereotype people based on their color… Or do I??”

And at that moment, I realized I do stereotype, and once I noticed, I stopped. It felt like the whole world just froze, and I felt every emotion in one, together. I felt horrible about myself for what I did to the woman who, because of me, got stereotyped twice in one day.

Kathleen D.



Topic: Gender stereotypes in media


As I walk briskly to the big glass doors of the building that has changed people’s understanding of me, and of other people like me, I am nervous. I am normally nervous in public because when people find out who I am, they find me weird and stop talking to me. But I know I will have to eventually walk in the building, so I slowly open the door, and as I walk through, I trip on a door stopper, almost dropping everything in my tan folder with all my audition information in it. A tall blonde woman with bright blue eyes who was behind the front desk rushes towards me and asks if I’m okay, and if she can be of any assistance. I quickly stand up and say that I’m okay, and I thank her for rushing to my aid even though I’m perfectly fine.

The woman walks back behind the desk and checks me in by checking all my audition forms and my headshots. She goes to my personal information page and starts to read. She gives me nasty looks as she continues to read. She starts confirming information that she can contact me by, but speaking to me in a tone that just screams, “You’re weird, and I don’t like you.” Almost like I’m a different person than when she was kindly trying to help me when I had tripped earlier. Then I realize that she’s most likely giving me nasty looks for what I wrote on my information paper. There was a checkbox for male and female, but not for other. So, I wrote my own checkbox for gender non-binary. Most people think that you have to identify as a certain gender, and that makes me stand out, mostly in a bad way. But maybe not everyone will act this way, right? That was proven wrong quite quickly.

She said I was good to go to room 127, and I should sit inside to wait for the director and his assistant. As I walk down the hall, I read the numbers, and finally after two or three minutes I reach room 127. I open the metal door and am not surprised to see beautiful young women and handsome men waiting for their audition. I thought I had a chance, but I start doubting myself because everyone in the room is “the look” that most people have on TV. But maybe I’ll act more like a person on TV.

The director and his assistant walk in the room, and everyone falls silent. They give us a little speech about what they expect and when to check our email for when they’ll tell us if we made it in the show or not. They start to call names in one by one. “Parker!” they yell after about ten minutes. I get up and walk to where they called me from, and into a seperate room. I stand up in front of some other judges, the director, and his assistant. They start to read my information paper and immediately start looking at each other awkwardly. They whisper back and forth, but I can’t tell what they are saying. The director says, “Okay Paker, why don’t you cold read this monologue?”

I respond, “Alright, may I have a few moments to read this?”

They all look at each other silently and nod. They have kindly highlighted the part that I need to read, and I assume someone will read the other lines. I start to read my lines in my head. Is this supposed to be funny? This is a identity that people are, but they try to make it seem funny or like a joke. In the script, I’m supposed to be this gay person (which I don’t have a problem with), and at the top of the script it has jokes about being gay and how to “act gay.” Also the thing that I absolutely hate on media and TV is where they make girls overly feminine and guys overly masculine, and they have that in the script as well.

I say, “Do you think this is funny?”

The director responds with, “Well, yes. I personally do find it hilarious.”

Really? This is outrageous! Just because someone is gay or in the LGBTQ+ community doesn’t mean that their life is a joke. I finally say, “I’m leaving. I hope you’re happy that you’re making people’s gender identities a joke.” I quietly walk out of the room without a word and through the hall, back to the front desk, and out the front entrance. I knew at that moment something had to be done.

I ask a few other LGBTQ+ people and gender nonbinary people how their audition experiences have gone, and all of them had similar situations where they were told how to “act gay” or “act lesbian,” and they were told to be overly feminine or overly masculine. Or they were just treated poorly by the staff. I tell them to spread the word about this company treating us poorly and make sure everyone knows why. One week later, it’s everywhere on social media. Everyone is giving their opinion on it, and most of them are supportive. I even receive an email from Channel 8 news, asking if they can interview me. In four hours! I graciously accept because I could get the word out to people who don’t have social media.

Four hours later, I go to my interview. To sum it up, they inquire about what the people from the company said and how they reacted when they found out I was gender non-binary. I also say that no matter how this situation is handled, we need to stay true to ourselves and not change who we are just because a company makes fun of our identities. It is about a 20 minute interview, and it goes by very quickly.  We wrap up the interview, and after they thank me for coming and sharing. I walk outside and back to my house to watch the interview. I turn on my small, black TV and scroll through the channels. As I am scrolling, I find news that a whole riot has begun, where people are standing outside the building where I auditioned with signs, and the people are yelling, “Equal rights! Equal rights!” Wow. This is great. I guess a lot more people care than I thought. Eventually, the company gets fed up and calls the police to move everyone out of the area.

A week later, I watch the news again, and apparently the company I auditioned for is going to get shut down due to me and the whole riot. Since people saw the news of my interview and the riot, the company wasn’t making any money because no one was watching their shows. When the company gets moved out and shut down, I want to start my own company where everyone is treated respectfully and where there are no awful stereotypes of people. So I go to the bank to get a loan and buy that building.

So as I walk briskly to the big glass doors of the building that has changed people’s understanding of me, and other people like me, I remember to stay true to myself and not let anyone diminish me for who I am.